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That’s NOT Me! When Your Identity Has Been Ripped!

2012-02-19T12:25:20+00:00

You buy things, right? ‘Well, duh,’ you might say, ‘who doesn’t?’

Of course you do. You are a person and you have a life. You do many things as ‘you’ – buy, sell, you name it, you have a life in this world. That’s the good news – you’re alive. The bad news is that someone else may…

5 Keys to Money Management after Divorce

2012-02-10T21:20:45+00:00

To say that divorce is hard on the finances is an understatement, I know.

I mean, the divorce settlement process itself is enough to make you scream. I was handing out thousands in attorneys’ fees, hers and mine, and we weren’t even at war all that much. But I had a stay-at-home spouse, a somewhat unusual situation these days, so what can I say.

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It’s Your Boat, Row It!

2011-12-02T17:56:36+00:00

So many emotions come into play after a divorce or loss of a partner. There can be moments where you feel liberated and optimistic and then there are moments of confusion, apathy and even depression.

We got used to having someone always there, even if it wasn’t the most pleasant circumstance. It was still comforting in some way. No matter how bad things…

Best Cruises for Every Budget

2011-11-14T13:00:23+00:00

There are lots of misconceptions about cruises – that they’re boring, that they’re overpriced, or that they’re just for senior citizens.

The truth is that the options for cruising are as wide and as varied any other type of tour or vacation. Even for couples (married or not!) there is still a wide variety of options. If you haven’t been on a cruise,…

Depressed or Just Down in the Dumps?

2011-11-09T21:47:43+00:00

We kind of throw the word ‘depression’ or related expressions around pretty loosely these days, “That was a depressing experience” or “I’m just depressed today."

Usually it is intended more as a figure of speech than a clinical diagnosis.

The fact is, however, we men are not very receptive to the notion that…

Wanted: Midlife Man Seeks Midlife Woman

2011-09-01T20:00:39+00:00

As midlife men, it is hard to figure out how and where to meet quality ladies in a normal social setting. I suspect most of us will gravitate toward the types of places we went to in our youth and will largely be disappointed. I mean hanging out in bars at age 50 on a Friday night using worn-out pick-up lines like ‘Hey, babe, what’s up?’ just seems creepy. If it wasn’t…

Getting Your Mojo Workin’

2011-08-01T22:39:55+00:00

The word, mojo, comes from the African word that means to cast a magic spell or charm, to possess magical powers.

For us then, mojo has to do with our personal magnetism or charm which we use to attract and seduce women. It’s our schtick, our moves, our repertoire, our routine, our unique tool kit, that we use to win a woman over.

Moving too fast…

Where Has All the Hair Gone?

2011-07-28T21:49:44+00:00

Think of the melancholy you get from listening to the song sung by Joan Baez, Where Have All the Flowers Gone? “Where have all the flowers gone, long time passing...”

I think that it is what many of us feel when we think about the gradual (and perhaps not so gradual) loss of our hair. The song makes me want to insert hair into the song,…

Making a Difference: Legacies that Matter

2011-07-01T21:45:27+00:00

A man was once asked, “Don’t you want to leave a legacy?” The man responded, “Not if I have to die first!”

Our legacy is what people remember about us after we’re gone. It’s what we leave behind. Part of the midlife struggle is defining to ourselves how we want to be remembered. We wonder if we have made a positive and lasting impact.…

Should You Get a Pet?

2011-07-01T21:31:43+00:00

Being single brings one face-to-face with the realities of being alone.

No one to greet you when you get home. No one to talk to when darkness covers the land. No one sitting there with whom to just chat about what’s happened in the day, or what’s troubling you. This can be a bit overwhelming at first.

Invariably, someone…