Taking the Long Way : The 4060 Blog
Midlife Men and Unplanned Exits
February 12, 2012 • Posted under: Mind, Lifestyle
Untimely. Unplanned. Whitney Houston’s death could be characterized by such descriptors. Of course, I could say the same about many people, including family members. Not many of us have a ‘planned exit’ so I suppose it brings to the fore the broader question of what are we doing with the time we are given. The great wizard, Gandalf, said something very much like this in…
Trying to Have it Both Ways in Midlife
February 06, 2012 • Posted under: Mind, Lifestyle, Relationships
Midlife men, we probably can’t have it both ways. Let me explain. I was watching an episode of NCIS this evening, one of my few weekly TV try-to-watch shows, ok, my only weekly try-to-watch show outside of the evening news. Anyhow, this particular show was a bit annoying in its format as it was moving Gibbs, the big cheese of an investigative unit, back and forth from the present to voices…
Midlife Regret: Coulda, Woulda, Shoulda
January 01, 2012 • Posted under: Mind, Relationships
It appears that many midlife men live under a cloud of regret. I’ve never really framed my life decisions in terms of regret or its opposite, whatever that is. Google indicates that the opposite includes such words as contentment, satisfaction, and applause. Regret is defined as a “feeling of sadness, repentance, or disappointment over something”. I’m not…
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Why Russian Women Seek Western Husbands
August 26, 2011 • Posted under: Relationships
In today’s short entry, I focus on one simple question: Why does a Russian woman seek a foreign husband? I will focus on one of many possible responses to this question today and do so in a sort of back-door manner - I’m going to talk about Russian men. When I use the word ‘Russian’, I include people from Russia, of course, but also those from Ukraine, Moldova,…
Dating Foreign Women: A Difference of Perspective
August 03, 2011 • Posted under: Relationships
My name is Olga. I live in Ukraine. I have served in the role of translator/interpreter for Western men seeking to meet Ukrainian or Russian women. In the process over the years, I have observed a number of things about these encounters, some good and some not so good. I would like to talk about some of these observations here on 4060men. Today, I’ll talk about…
Rethinking Friendship
April 30, 2011 • Posted under: Relationships
The hardest thing to do in life is to put yourself in someone else’s shoes. When there’s an argument or some discord between two people it's so hard for either side to look at the situation from the other’s perspective. Forgiveness is also hard to deal with when a rift is raised between friends. Seeing the others point is extremely hard when our eyes and souls are…
