How hard can that be, for Pete’s sake. Let’s not turn every little thing in life into a big deal. My name is Kermit. Not real complicated. But hold on a second. I’m not talking strictly here about what people call me, or the name on my birth certificate, but about who I am as a unique personality.
There’s a song by the group Mumford & Sons called The Cave. While the musicians don’t really say what is specifically meant by the imagery conveyed in the lyrics, it seems to involve the struggle of an oppressed seeking to recapture what was lost. I like the tune, and the tone, and it has the beat of a defiant will to recapture a lost identity and an independence once possessed, if only in theory. I’ve put a version of the song with the lyrics on the video player on the home page.
I believe the idea is essentially the same as those who refer to finding your own voice, a conversation more often associated within women’s circles than men’s. Women who as mothers, wives and daughters seem to have lost themselves in the role expectations set by others. So much so, that they have no concrete idea who they are apart from these roles and thus struggle to find their own ‘voice.’
I don’t think it is merely a woman thing, but more a human thing – at least a very real risk for all humans in the modern world. It boils down to one simple question: Who am I? And then from that discovery comes the next question: How do I live each day from that person?
Stephen R. Covey begins one of his blog entries of a couple of years ago like this, “One word expresses the pathway to greatness: voice.
The power to discover your voice lies in the potential that was bequeathed you at birth. Latent and undeveloped, the seeds of greatness were planted. You were given magnificent “birth-gifts”-talents, capacities, privileges, intelligences, opportunities - that would remain largely unopened except through your own decision and effort. Open these gifts. Learn what taps your talents and fuels your passion - that rises out of a great need in the world that you feel drawn by conscience to meet - therein lies your voice, your calling, your soul’s code.”
Your ‘soul’s code.’ Wow!
While we men have typically been characterized as living according to our ‘true’ selves, I think that is nonsense. We’re also under intense pressure to conform to the world’s expectations, its rules, its definitions. Career paths exact a heavy price on our souls. This is humorously illustrated by Dilbert. More than that, life moves so fast and the demands just keep coming at us, leaving us little time to actually reflect on who we are ‘in there.’
Reminds me of the 1976 movie, Network, where the news anchor is so frustrated with his cancelled program due to low ratings that one evening on the air he launches into a rant in which he instructs viewers to open their windows and yell out, "I'm mad as hell, and I'm not going to take this anymore!"
What is your name? What is YOUR voice? It is that inner core that defines you and is to drive you. It helps you sort out the ‘wheat from the chaff’ as to your views, gifts, activities, priorities, and passions.
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