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Better Spent than Saved

December 02, 2010   •   By Master Hobbit

Posted under: Mind, Spirit, Career, Lifestyle


Better Spent than Saved

I suppose when we were younger, statements like ‘Someday I'm gonna be rich’ or ‘I’m going to travel the world someday’ seemed realistic goals. 


But at some point as we work our way through this life, we find that we either really didn’t care all that much about such aspirations, or more likely, we simply conclude that these goals are less and less likely to happen.


Why does that happen?  Well, achieving goals such as these are not easy, or rather, they’re easier said than done!  I mean, if getting rich was easy, we’d all be rich. But that is not really the point of this blog.  The fact is that any number of things we thought would happen by this stage of our lives, in fact, have not happened. Why this is the case is worthy of a whole set of blogs, but is not today’s topic.

Today’s question is ‘What are we waiting for?’ I was reminded of this theme again recently as I was reading in Livingston’s book, And Never Stop Dancing, a chapter titled similarly to this blog.


Let’s face it, we can say ‘someday’ only so many more times before it becomes simply self-delusion.  There’s something sad about watching people reach a place in life where they become resigned to the fact that most of their dreams, aspirations, or hopes, whatever, are not going to happen for them.  They figuratively fold their tent, find a good defensive corner to position themselves in, and look to hold on to what they’ve got until the end. 


I hate that tendency in myself and I find it cropping up every now and again.  I am reminded that such sayings like ‘life is not a rehearsal’ and ‘you only go around once’ can be powerful motivators to overcome our tendency to circle the wagons around what we have and cut off most of the adventure. 


Many of us become more conservative in our ways as we get older and more rigid in our thinking. We build comforting routines around our lives that bring order and predictability.  These things also form a box from which we venture little.


I was reminded of this exchange between Neo and the Oracle in the movie The Matrix (sorry, just can’t help myself).  Neo concludes from this conversation that he is not the One that Morpheus thinks he is.


Oracle: Sorry, kid. You got the gift, but it looks like you're waiting for something.
Neo: What?
Oracle: Your next life, maybe. Who knows? That's the way these things go.


Turns out that Neo was the One, but he needed to see it in himself.  What are we waiting for?  Our next life, maybe?  Good luck with that.


This is not a call to be reckless about how we live our lives, but for many of us that is the opposite of our tendency, which is to become timid, fearful, and overly cautious.


I would rather get hit by a bus as I cross the street in hot pursuit of my dreams than to be seated comfortably in my recliner, blanket wrapped around me, and cable television sucking the life out of me, as I wait for the Reaper to knock on my door.


If this is not a rehearsal, then this is Act 3, or 5, or 837, of the real deal.  What are we waiting for?  Why are we pulling up now?

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About the Author: Master Hobbit

Master Hobbit is the creator of 4060men. After a marriage of over 30 years ended in divorce, he journeyed for over 5 years as a single midlife man. He remarried in 2012. He is also the owner of the blog platform,, and a blog platform review site,

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